avril 2020
Expert Author Beverly Keyes Taylor
In our original story, you read about Frank and Ann. They both worked at a movie theater. In the story, Frank was working on his first day on the 'opening' shift for the theater. He busied himself doing the tasks his boss told him to do. As Frank finished his shift, Ann, a co-worker, decided to help him finish up the tasks the opening shift worker typically did. Ann's closing shift overlapped the opening shift a little bit.
Frank was just finishing his tasks and then Ann asked Frank to do a job he thought was assigned to the closing shift. Ann felt upset because Frank initially refused to help her clean the popcorn popper at the theater. She expected him to reciprocate with help for a task typically done on the closing shift. She told Frank she would just do it, though she threw a fit about it. Frank felt confused about who was responsible for doing the task.
In this article, read what was really happening from a brain chemistry viewpoint. Understanding that men and women act according to neurochemicals, greater job satisfaction and compatible workplace communication can contribute to improved company profits, increased employee retention rates and better work productivity.
1. From Ann's View
In our story, Ann believes she is helping Frank. When Ann speaks she uses inclusive terms such as 'we' and 'us'. By using inclusive terms she believes she is bonding with all involved. As women bond, their brains increase a hormone called oxytocin. Oxytocin boosts feelings of love and bonding in both men and women, but high levels put a man to sleep. Increased oxytocin prompts her to act nurturing and giving. Thus, Ann thinks like an oxytocin-driven woman. Our story's conflict occurs when she expects Frank to respond like a woman. But, men don't naturally reciprocate. Men can learn to reciprocate, especially when they see the reward.
When women help and act as part of a team, they feel fulfilled. It is their nature to reach out and cooperate with others. When they feel like they are helping someone who genuinely cares for them, their brains naturally increase oxytocin and serotonin levels. When Frank initially refused to satisfy Ann's request to clean the popcorn popper, she felt rejected: like she had to do everything by herself. Her belief that Frank cared nothing about satisfying her request raised her testosterone and depleted her oxytocin levels.
2. Too Much Testosterone In a Woman's Brain Depletes Her Oxytocin
Oxytocin makes women feel cared for and calm. Sufficient oxytocin levels in her brain balance her brain chemistry. Additionally, when a woman's brain creates sufficient amounts of serotonin, a woman feels calm and secure: like everything is all right. When a woman feels genuinely supported, her brain increases her serotonin. Women typically expect unconsciously that if they give, the other people will give. Because women are oxytocin-driven, they will typically cooperate and give to each other.
Ann expected Frank to naturally help her because she helped him. But, men don't think that way. They like to please women, but need to be told what makes a woman happy. Ann expected Frank to think like a woman. When he didn't, her unmet expectation created stress resulting in conflict between Ann and Frank.
3. From Frank's View
A man is naturally testosterone-driven. Men neither produce nor respond to oxytocin like women. The programming instructions found in testosterone directs a man to complete a task efficiently. When a man receives something, he doesn't think about giving something back. He simply accepts what's given to him. If he's given something, his reaction is, "Well, I guess I deserved it."
Frank was simply following his programming. He thought that following his specific task list would be all he had to do. That's what testosterone and dopamine do for men - drives them to stay focused on the assigned tasks. If Frank understood about brain chemistry, he could have said something genuinely caring that valued Ann for who she is. Saying something like, "I respect you for taking on the workload you do here at the theater. You're very smart and care a lot for the customers." would activate her oxytocin-brain creating part. The more oxytocin present in her system, the more Ann would feel calm and content about her work.
4. Summary
Now that you've read the description of this working situation, you can see how this type of interaction might occur at your place of business. Increased job satisfaction increases productivity, reduces sick time, and ensures that employees stay at the company longer. Increased job satisfaction may come from understanding how to use Gender Brain Chemistry technology for greater workplace harmony.
Expert Author Beverly Keyes Taylor
Look at your schedule book. How many clients do you have booked for this coming week? Only one? Gee, you better do something about that. Perhaps you know other hypnotists are successful with their hypnosis practice, but you feel like you're struggling a bit to keep your business afloat.
Remember, you temporarily are denying yourself of low sales. Low sales aren't denying you of being successful. You are really great at using hypnosis to solve their problems. That's fabulous. But marketing is not your specialty. At the same time, you know you must find more clients to stay in business. You feel scared. There are bills to be paid. You can't think clearly right now. Here's what you are doing to your brain chemistry and how to change it to attract more clients.
1. Using Self-Limiting Attitudes, Thoughts and Mind Images, You Deplete Serotonin, Oxytocin, Testosterone and Dopamine
These 4 neurochemicals in balanced amounts cause your brain to create these chemical substances so you generally feel satisfied, blissful, driven and excited about life. By intentionally looking for the good in a situation, your brain works with you to create these hormones and neurotransmitters so you can successfully achieve marketing goals to keep your business going.
If you think pessimistically that you 'just can't market successfully', your brain hears your command and down go your business profits. However, as you know, hypnotically scripting fabulous, thrilling and spectacular possibilities about having more clients than you can handle brings you that reality, too.
So, think thoughts and create thrilling mind images that result in you feeling confident, uplifted and encouraged about your super successful hypnosis practice. Following the Law of Attraction, you get more of what you consciously focus on. And as you focus on possibilities, your brain supports those ideas by creating more serotonin, oxytocin, dopamine or testosterone to create the balance you need. Cool, huh?
2. Do a Joint Venture With A Complimentary Organization To Hypnosis That also Promotes Natural Wellness
Look for a charitable organization in which you believe that needs money. Offer to do a stress reduction seminar or natural pain relief seminar using hypnosis. Ask the charitable organization to promote your seminar as a fundraiser. Agree to give a portion of the profits to the charitable organization.
When you hold the seminar and feel fulfilled about what you're doing, your brain supports what you're doing by providing natural neurochemicals to assist you in successfully completing the activity. This is a great way to get the benefit of an already established list of people interested in natural wellness.
The organization pays for the promotion, you gain new clients and you get to use hypnosis. This increases your practice numbers.
3. Use Hypnosis Yourself to Brainstorm Marketing Opportunities That Promote You
Use your hypnosis skill and write a manifesting script to bring in more clients. Imagine already having achieved your goal in a thrilling outcome of bringing in new clients. This final idea is a great way to keep your hypnosis skill honed.
Expert Author Linda Hancock
A couple of years ago I travelled to Jamaica. I'm not a typical tourist who sits on the beach with a Margarita. I loaded my luggage with supplies for this third-world country and arranged to visit three schools and an orphanage. Then I decided that it would be fun to visit Family Court!
Jamaica has a murder every thirty minutes and despite warnings about not leaving the resort, I hired a taxi and headed for the Court House. Well, what an old primitive building. Crooked cement stairs up the side allowed me to view the first floor which housed used appliances and the second floor which was designated for storage. The third floor was everything else - Probation, Counselling, Child Welfare, Family Court.
As the "whitest" thing on the floor I quickly attracted attention. I showed my business card and birth certificate to the receptionist asking for Mr. Green. I thought this was a "code word" but was ushered into the office of the CEO - a black man with a strong British accent. His very small "office" was extremely full to the point that one Social Worker needed to stand in order to close the door.
Mr. Green apologized for the crowd and explained "There are only two psychologists in all of Montego Bay and we don't have access to either". He immediately asked if I would teach him and provide a workshop for his people. We arranged for that to occur the following day.
In the meantime arrangements were made for me to be a visitor in Family Court. I was shocked at the poor surroundings and lack of resources. There were no electronics and professionals wrote all the proceedings by hand in large ledgers.
After Court the Judge approached me and said "What were you writing in my Courtroom?" I had been using a small journal to record my observations but quickly said "All the things you were doing well". She invited me to her office and questioned me at length about various topics. Then she said "If I come early tomorrow will you come and teach me?" I agreed.
The following morning, Mr. Green came to the resort to get me in the diplomatic car (I think it was Datsun). I met with the Judge again and then Mr. Green apologized. He said "Ms. Hancock, you will hate me. We have so many crises in our region that I cannot pull people in for a workshop. Shall I take you back to the resort?" My immediate reply was "Of course not. I came for the day so please put me to work".
What fun I had. I worked with a fire starter, taught a Social Worker how to do a genogram and visited with the senior counsellor. Then there was a knock at the door and Mr. Green announced "The Minister of Justice has asked to meet you". Wow!
She and I talked and laughed and shared issues that were common to us. She then asked "Will you do a workshop for my people?"(they love workshops) and I agreed. The waiting room was cleared and the clients were locked out as there was no other facility available. There were the paralegals, counsellors, administrative staff, probation officers and I had had no preparation time. I turned to Mr. Green and the Minister of Justice and asked "What is the topic?" Without any thought or hesitation I heard "Stress Management".
This experience reminded me that no matter what country we are in or what resources we have, expectations are high. Like the Olympic motto of "higher, faster and stronger" we try to do more with less and this results in stress. Learning to manage that stress is a task that is not bound by geography, ethnicity or economics.
The world is not all that big and some issues are universal. Isolation is not an option as we're all this together. The good news is that when we reach out to others no matter where they are, we end up being the ones who benefit most.
Expert Author Linda Hancock
In 1990, Dr. Seuss, published the book "Oh, the Places You'll Go" in which he claims "Life's a Great Balancing Act". Unfortunately our world is out of balance and full of contradictions.
We can transplant a human heart but are not able to protect it from breaking. We can make a baby in a test tube but not feed all the millions of hungry children in the Third World. We give out Peace prizes but do not know how to make peace where over 100 wars are now occurring. We have developed a way for man to walk on the moon but not for my sister who has Multiple Sclerosis and cannot walk on the earth.
We have so much knowledge and so little wisdom. We can identify an animal with mad cow disease anywhere in North America but can't find Osama Bin Laden.
Technology has shrunk our planet so that we describe it as being "a global village", but, at the same time, we experience very little "community".
It seems that the more we seek solutions to world problems, the more we tend to blame.
Recently my friend told me about an article she had read which inspired her. The lady in the story stated that she thought she could change the world but failed. She then attempted to change her city and again failed. Next, she focused on her family and faced defeat. All she had left to change was herself but she found that by working on herself her family was positively impacted and they helped to make change in their city which ultimately improved the world!
Last June I was on a total of 18 airplane flights. Have you every paid close attention to the flight attendant who provides safety instruction before take-off? She or he demonstrates how to use the seatbelt, where to find the exits and then states "If there is an emergency, a mask will drop from the ceiling. Place this on yourself FIRST and then help the person beside you."
Balance, whether it refers to acrobatics, interior design, a financial plan or emotional well-being, requires knowing both strengths and weaknesses of the situation. A high-wire walker, for example, can have wonderful skills but without allowing for wind gusts will face disaster. The Prime Minister of a country at war who predicts the enemy's shortcomings will be defeated without also analyzing problems within the ranks of the allies. Those who are involved with championship sports teams know every failing of the opponent before the game even begins.
Psychologists help people to recognize and celebrate their strengths, identify weaknesses and develop strategies which will lead to wellness. "Life is one great balancing act" that requires a willingness to examine oneself and seek help when needed. The result is not only a changed person but there is also a ripple effect on families, groups, communities and countries!